How Much Me Can I Be?

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Everyone has their own perception of what Executive Presence is.  Maybe it comes from images in the media of slick CEO’s with their thousand dollar suits and perfectly polished shoes.  Maybe it comes from years of watching Hollywood’s affectation of what an executive looks, sounds and acts like that makes us want to emulate that image.   We have this picture in our minds of what it is to be a successful executive and then tend to evaluate ourselves and others using that lense.  But is that authentic?  Is that a realistic approach?  Recently, while creating a workshop on executive presence for women with my partners at Working Improv, I was reminded of my friend Sarah.

Sarah, is a smart and successful career coach.  When she started out, she set up her very polished and professional website, got the obligatory head shots of herself in a dark suit with a crisp white shirt and began to market herself.  Very soon she realized that the clients she was attracting were not the clients she had a passion for helping and her business just wasn’t clicking.  Why?  Because she was not being authentic to her true personality.  She is really a bit of a quirky rebel at heart and the highly corporate brand that she had carefully constructed left no room for her true spirit.  

So, she did some soul searching and started over.  She created a brand that was still polished but it was authentic to her. ( Suddenly, she was connecting with great clients who were loving her approach and professional guidance despite the fact that she had replaced the suit with a more playful and colourful wardrobe.  Prospective clients saw that she was a little quirky but they also saw that she was confident in herself and her abilities. It didn’t matter that her preferred stationary often included polka dots and she occasionally rocked a pair of cupcake earrings, she still had polish and credibility.  She had found the balance between expectation and authenticity. Today she is getting great referral business, is a regular contributor to Forbes, Huffington Post and Entrepreneur Magazine and is being tapped as an expert in her field.  Authenticity for the win!

Finding the balance isn’t always easy and there is no set in stone answer to the question “How much me can I be?”  The key is to not lose sight of your goals while still being true to you.  Find ways to let the unique essence of you come through in the way you present yourself while still being aware of the expected norms.  I work in a creative industry so I have a little more flexibility, people expect me to have some flair to my style both physical and personality.  That said I still need to know my audience and make adjustments accordingly.

 "inauthentic leaders tend to be less productive and to experience higher rates of burnout."

It’s about being confident in who you are and what you have to offer while recognising that you still need to get through the door.   You need to be in the moment, assessing the situation and finding that balance.  If things aren’t working, don’t be afraid to make a change.  The goal is to find that sweet spot where you feel that you are being true to you while still creating opportunities to advance on your chosen path.

Kimberly Beaune, CMP, CSEP 
Kimberly is a veteran of the Special Events Industry and has lead teams in creating award winning events, developing strong client relationships and consistently exceeding sales targets.  She owns and operates Creative Twist Inc. a successful event production and design firm, and is a partner in Working Improv a top rated leadership training organization.  Kimberly is also VP Membership for the International Special Events Society Toronto Chapter.

Improvisation - an Essential Life Skill

As meeting and event professionals we are by nature planners.  We live by our lists, schedules and critical paths.  We couldn’t imagine walking out on stage or allowing one of our clients to without a script, a show flow…a plan.  Improvisation is the antithesis of planning.  There is no script, no detailed critical path in place.  There’s just a stage and an audience and dead air that needs to be filled.  Now it might surprise you to know that there is structure at the core of improv.  Yes the essence of improv is “making it up on the spot”, but before you can successfully step out on that stage and let your instincts, creativity and imagination flow you must have a foundation to build on.

Now, I’ll admit that the first thing that drew me to improv was the spontaneity of it.   As an event planner and designer, I had many things in my life that were all about the details, schedules and list.  The idea of challenging myself to jump out of my comfort zone and be completely spontaneous was exhilarating.  I had found comfort in my systems and plans but on another level, in my everyday life, I craved a release.  I wanted the freedom of play without the pressure of learning a script or blocking.  So I took the leap and went to an improv class.

Almost immediately I was hooked.  The utter lack of judgement was like a weight being lifted from me.  I could throw out any idea or offer and the answer was always YES and it was generally followed by AND.  Two very powerful and surprisingly liberating words.  “Yes! And…” so simple yet so profound.  This was the beginning of that structure I spoke of earlier.  Accept an offer that is made.  Every time.  YES!  Acknowledge that you heard it with AND.  Then accelerate the offer by building on it and adding your own complimenting offer.   “Yes! And…” the possibilities are endless.

I took more classes and learned more and more about the values at the core of improv:

  •         Yes! And…
  •          accept, acknowledge, accelerate
  •          get out of your head and be in-the-moment
  •          listen… really listen
  •          be willing to build on someone else’s idea
  •          be willing to let go of your idea
  •          be fearless in making an offer
  •          jump in when the ship is sinking and not only when it’s smooth sailing

and so on… 

Improv was becoming part of my life and so naturally it began creeping into my work in the most exciting ways.  I was more open and willing to put my ideas forward, I was more supportive of my colleagues’ ideas and I said yes rather than no when collaborating with my team.  I was less of a wall flower in networking situations and stepped into conversations with openness and courage.  I feared failure less and I succeeded more.

Not only did these skills help me with how I interacted with my colleagues but it helped me with my clients as well.  I listened better to what their goals and needs were and I was not so precious about making adjustments to the way I wanted things.  I was more in-the-moment and engaged and my relationship with my clients was richer for it.

Not surprisingly I was also much more confident when dealing with unexpected challenges or situations.  We’ve all been there; the band is late, there are ten unexpected guests at the door, the AV Tech can’t get the speaker’s PowerPoint to work properly, the bride is melting down because the blush roses are too blush.  It is in these moments that the improvisers’ instinct kicks in; you accept that the challenge is happening, acknowledge the impact it is having on the plan and accelerate the resolution by being in the moment, evaluating your resources, and saying “Yes! And…”   We all have common sense and know how to deal with unexpected challenges – we’re planners after all.  Improv just allows us quicker access to the knowledge we already have.  It is the set of tools we use to get us out of our heads and into the moment.

It’s funny that once you recognize how improv has influenced the way you operate in life and at work, you begin to see the value of its application everywhere.  It’s not surprising that improv is a recognized leadership and communication technique taught all over the world.  It has applications in sales, team dynamics, creativity, innovation, crisis management and in a myriad of other situations.  According to links found on The Applied Improvisation Network (, improv training is widely used in business, education, healthcare, prisons, rehabilitation, veteran services, and so much more.

Improv is truly an essential life skill and if you think about it, we all use improv to some degree every day.  The magic happens when you go back to the core values of improv and work from that structure or foundation. Try saying “Yes! And…” more often and see what that does.  Allow yourself and the people around you the freedom to play, to take risks and to maybe even fail a little.  You’ll be the richer for it!

Kimberly is co-founder of a corporate training organization called Working Improv.